The woman, who has been involved in a long-term affair, shares her perspective on being the “other woman” and offers advice to wives whose husbands have strayed. She expresses that she doesn’t see herself as a “homewrecker” but rather as a “band-aid” for troubled marriages. In her view, when a husband is hurting or struggling emotionally, she provides temporary relief for him.

She describes her relationship with a married man, whom she refers to as “Big Bear,” and explains that their bond is not just about sex, but also about emotional connection. According to her, men often seek more than just a partner—they desire a mother, a friend, and someone who can be a listener and a therapist. She claims that the problem lies in the fact that “Big Bear’s” wife, though a good mother, fails to meet these emotional needs.

Her advice to wives is straightforward: if they want to prevent situations like hers, they need to understand why their husbands chose them and strive to rekindle the love and emotional connection that initially brought them together. She emphasizes the importance of being attentive to their husband’s emotional and psychological needs, suggesting that this could reduce the temptation for men to seek fulfillment elsewhere.